Last summer, I decided
to spend some time really engaging in the world news. At the time, I read about
the latest reports on what’s happening in ebola-hit countries; the conflict in
Gaza; Syria; Ukraine and Russia; the misguided/greedy/clueless politicians
around the world making decisions affecting their country and not listening the
the masses; the rising obesity, cancers, poverty, famine, the global
economy; the death of Robin Williams. All of the above articles were
interspersed with adverts trying to influence what car I should buy, what I
should be wearing, where I should be holidaying, and how to be thin. There was
the usual social commentary on facebook/twitter about the news. No wonder I’m
feeling glum. In the time it’s taken me to even type this list, I’m feeling
lower than before I started.
This can’t be how life
is supposed to be…is it? Are we all hard-wired to strive for our own individual
wants, over and above what others needs are? At what point did the human race
move from looking after their basic needs – as being satisfactory to a happy
life – to tearing apart someone else’s to satisfy one?
I know this is not the
case: the outpouring of grief over Robin William’s apparent suicide was
immense: why? Because he was a fantastically funny human being, who
demonstrated his ultimate fragility. A fragility which exists inside all of us.
His death struck a chord with many.
What’s happening in the middle
east has its peaks and troughs in the world’s news stage. Last summer, it was a
prominent news feature every day, but after a while it seemed to have less of
an impact. I remember that whilst eating breakfast in a hotel dining room, the
TV was showing the BBC news and weather. As the news items rolled, it reported
the latest death toll of the Palestinians: nobody moved. Nobody watched the
item. Heads remained down, whilst the dining room collective continued to eat
their breakfast. A moment later, and the weather forecast came on the screen:
heads swivelled to watch in anticipation of how hot it was going to be, and
whether raincoat or sunscreen would be required, for the day. A hush fell in
the room. As soon as the report had finished, people went back to eating. How
can this be? Is this English-ness? Is this apathy? Is this a tolerance thing?
Is it tolerable to hear how children are dying because of an arguement over
land and religion as a means to power and control? I feel the answer to this is
“yes” – because we are flooded with the news all the time. We are becoming
hardened to war atrocities, because it is something happening far, far away,
and it doesn’t affect us, at all. Does it?
You know what? It does!
Why?
The fact that someone is
more bothered about the weather in their town than fighting and killing going
on in another part of the world, is a worrying symptom of how our societies are
becoming disconnected with each other. My ability to continue to empathise and
feel the need to help relies on my emotional intelligence, that which lights me
up inside. How would I feel if I were in a refugee camp in Syria with my
children? Not being able to go back to my home. How does it feel to be too
scared to leave the house for fear of being raped, killed, or arrested? How
does it feel to bury a child? How does it feel to lose everything in the blink
of an eye? How does it feel if I forget my umbrella and it rains because I
didn’t listen to the weather report that day? I get wet: so what?
The news this week that Jeremy Clarkson has been sacked from Top
Gear despite a petition to reinstate him
reached a million signatures, last week, has shown how the public can be
motivated when they feel something is directly affecting them. One million
people appear to condone a physical assault from one person; yet only 100,000
people signed a petition asking for world leaders to step in to help the
refugees of Syria. What’s going on?! Does
anyone else find this ever so slightly concerning? I understand that Syria is
far away and Jeremy Clarkson is a public figure, but people are willing to
ignore the finer, essential details in order to maintain the status quo?
The thing is, it seems
that there are more people who are willing to loudly complain about getting wet
before they go home to shower and change into something warm and dry, than
those who are shouting about the injustice in the world, and who are prepared
to hold out their hand to help a fellow human being. A disproportionate power,
some of whom want to seek revenge and kill, in comparison to those who are
prepared to connect with themselves and others, and find out what has made them
feel that urge and make a change. That’s why we are all affected by apathy or a
lack of empathy. I know that there are movements, campaigns, and positive ways
in which social media is helping to influence societies and governments and
those in power, but we need to make more of a connection with what’s going on
in the world, and pay attention. We are all affected in some way by the actions
of others.
I was waiting to pay for
my food in the supermarket a while back, where the store is being refurbished.
It was quite busy, and there was an older couple behind me getting really cross
and complaining about having to wait to pay for their trolley full of items,
despite a free till which was for “baskets only”. “So what?” I thought. “The
man at the till is doing his job. There are a number of people walking around
with baskets, and a larger number with trolleys stacked full of food”.
The woman started to
raise her voice in annoyance at this, referring to the “stupid idiot” at the
till who had refused to serve her. I wondered whether the young assistant
had heard her, and if so, how he would have felt to be insulted like this. I made
eye contact with her. The woman continued to complain. I smiled as I listened,
then said, “Ah well…never mind. Let it go! There are worse things going on in
the world, right now! A few extra minutes queueing won’t do you any harm.” She
stopped in her tracks, took a step back from me, then whispered, “You’re right.
Of course not.” She was so wrapped up in her own head, thoughts, irritation,
that everything else had become insignificant. But given an opportunity to see
another view, she made a connection with her own feelings, and realised that it
didn’t really matter, in the grand scheme of things. After I’d paid for my
food, I went up to the woman, and wished her a lovely weekend. She smiled back
at me and wished me the same. Ta-da! Connection made: spark turned into
sparkle. Job done!
This is what this blog
post is really about: taking a moment to step back from a situation and connect
with your self. Just a moment to feel into what’s going on – go back to the
“spark” – and decide whether it is a sparkle to light your inner glow (that
which makes you shine and lights up those around you); whether that spark
starts an unstoppable fire (that which provokes a sense of a need for revenge
or retribution); or whether that spark should be extinguished before it causes
any damage (the awareness of negative feelings and acknowledgement before
letting them go without consequence). And if it isn’t gonna make you shine
brightly enough for others to see and share their light with yours, then don’t
set the sparks off in the first place. As Ghandi said, “You must be the change
you want to see in the world”.
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